The One Thing God Needs to Work in And through Your Girl


I get to travel all around the country speaking to a variety of different audiences, but I’ll tell you there is something special that the Lord is doing in communities of women who have decided to activate their gifts.

It’s so incredibly powerful.

I’ve been doing the author/speaking thing for a couple of years now. I left my job as a full-time teacher two years ago when it felt like God was nudging me to quit and run Bible Belles alongside my husband.

In what feels like a very short time, the Lord has really moved in unbelievable ways.

It’s so interesting what God can do when we step out in just a little bit of faith, isn't it?

There’s really only one thing we have to do to be a part of what He's doing.

Our Father doesn’t need our expertise. He simply needs our OBEDIENCE.

Yet, it can be so easy to get caught up in whether or not we feel qualified to do the work God is calling us to, not to mention how we are going to influence and inspire our own daughters to feel that way. But it isn’t about how they feel. We need to teach our girls to move when God says move. To act when He stirs their heart for something, for someone.

I got a call a while back from the most delightful woman who runs the moms ministry at a local church in San Diego down the street from my house.  She was explaining how they had a great event for moms coming up and they wanted me to come and speak. Their team had prayed about it and the topic they decided on was: “The Wonder of Being the Best You." And could I come and speak on that?

Yikes! I am still on the phone with her when my heart starts racing, and I start to sweat a little. And my mind immediately begins to wander and I start thinking about all the ways I am not the “Best” version of myself. It was like a mini nightmare except I was awake. I was thinking about all the ways I don’t measure up – how I wish I was more patient, and gentle, and that I worried less and how I wished I could change the abrasive tone of voice I use after years of being raised by my amazing yet firm, no-nonsense mother.

There I was, mid phone call, feeling unqualified, allowing all of those negative thoughts to swirl.

Maybe that's you today. Maybe you’ve been brave enough to ask some of the right questions:

God, what is my daughter’s purpose?

What is the unique value she can provide to her home, her relationships, her community, and our world?

What are her gifts and who are they for?

How do you want her to share those gifts and what do you want to show her in the process?

The real question is How do we take the answers to those questions and help our daughters put them into ACTION?

That’s the challenge.

Because God’s desire for our girls is that they would say YES when He nudges and activate all of their gifts, talents, and resources to be relevant for His Kingdom.

Maybe your daughter has set her sights on something or she’s feeling God tug her heart. Maybe she is unsure how to move forward, not because the goal is unclear, but because the path is. Encourage her today to rest, assured that when she gets started and makes her way down, her Father is going to help her. Pray with her to take heart and trust Him. If the goal is God-breathed, He will establish her steps (Prov. 16:9).

If her goal is aligned with God’s will, she can simply start. The path will change often. The goal will not. If it’s aligned with God's will, He will make a way.

When I think back on my conversation with that sweet women's ministry leader, I’m reminded of a conversation I had about a while back with Brent's aunt, Pat. Aunt Pat is one of Rooney’s special people. She is truly one of the most faith-filled women I’ve ever met. She and I have cancer in common, and Aunt Pat has her own miraculous story of healing like I do. I remember talking to her about what it would take for someone like me to get up in front of a crowd and share something personal.

She said, “I don’t know, Erin, but I do know that every time we say no to something God is calling us to do, we withhold a blessing from someone who needs it.”

That one hit me right in the gut. When you think about obedience like that, it makes it a lot easier to say Yes if you realize that saying No means you're depriving someone of something God wants them to have.

Regardless of our feelings or circumstances, it is God's desire that we would use everything at our disposal to make His name known. He wants us to use our words and actions to reveal His glory and model for our daughters how to do it too.

God has given all of us many gifts. Maybe the most extraordinary gift is the invitation to be a part of what He is doing. We accept that invitation every time we obey.

Encourage your daughter to say YES to what God is stirring her heart for today. When she does, she is declaring to the Father her gratitude for His faithfulness, His grace, and unending mercy.

God has given her many precious gifts. And every time she says yes, it is her gift to God.

Have an amazing day!

If you’re looking for resources to point your daughter to women who played a powerful role in God’s story because they stepped out in faith to obey, be sure to check out our book series, The Adventures of Rooney Cruz. You can find books, devotionals, activities and more by clicking here.

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1 comment

  • I love how you have surrendered your gifts to God and wow, look what He is doing!!!

    Arlene Pellicane

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